FAQ

Sessions are one hour or sometimes a little little longer if we dont have a hard stop afterwards. Remember that coaching with me is not only about the one-hour session. It’s also about the container which includes voice notes back and forth and my modules. As things arise in daily life you can continuously communicate what’s on your mind with me and deal with things in real time.

I find doing it over the phone usually works best, but you can also email me at davecashmenscoach@gmail.com. I am busy, so things like Calendly don’t always reflect my current schedule.

We will have a contract for three months and then month-to-month. You need to cancel a Zoom session the day before. Otherwise, that counts as your session for the week.

Yes. My wife and I work with couples as a team.

Every session is different and client-directed, but we usually try to start with at least a couple of minutes of coherent breathing or Qi Gong followed by “tapping into the higher self.” Then, we move on to a discussion of what is causing the most suffering and try to pull that up by its roots. After that, we will work to pragmatically change your thinking, energy and behavior (if it’s not practical, it’s not spiritual).

Often, there are action steps or accountability work for the week ahead, but not always (it depends on what type of client you are). We may give you new Neuro-Linguistic Programming if you are best served by the right hand path, or an “Existential KInk,” shadow work assignment if you are best served by the left hand path. We may work to change your memories/programming using the reimprinting technique from faster eft (one of my favorite modalities), or we may question your stressful beliefs using the Byron Katie work, or we may work on resentments and fears and relational traumas using somatic experiencing or turning it over to a higher power and calling in higher “resourcing.” We will end the sessions by digesting and reviewing what we just worked on, celebrating wins and even celebrating what you are struggling with, and getting clear on the plan for moving forward.

Quite often, yes, but not always. If someone needs to work on slowing down, we may emphasize more rest and self-care. Rest is sometimes as important a behavioral change as inspiration and action. I believe in practicing natural rest for addiction and I might challenge you to practice that as well.

I use techniques and ideas from so many sources and so much of my own life experience, but I will try to give you a sample of some of the big intellectual architects from which I draw inspiration.

When people are stuck in fear and shame patterns, I utilize ideas from a couple of places: 1) The “tools,” a modality invented by Phil Shultz and Barry Michels, and 2) Existential Kink, a book by Carolyn Elliot.

For compulsions, I often use inquiry techniques by Byron Katie and Scott Kiloby, who I studied extensively and have been certified by.

Other modalities I use include Neuro-linguistic Programming, coherent breathing, and faster eft which is a version of the Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping but also includes a way to reimprint memories. I also like practical techniques I have picked up from the books Atomic Habits by James Clear and The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg.

There is a whole subset of literature and techniques for those working with sex and relationship issues that I like to reference. I work with a book called The Way of the Superior Man by David Daeda for sex and relationship coaching, as well as “Getting the Love You Want,” by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. in my own life I use “The Imago technique,” which was created by Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt and when appropriate I sometimes teach that to clients or couples or families.

Other things I have studied that I use in sessions include Coherent Breathing, Qi Gong, somatic experiencing, and when its appropriate non duality and non doership teachings from my mentors Robert Wolfe and Roger Castillo.

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield and “Existential Kink,” by Carolyn Elliot are required reading for all my clients. I highly recommend The Artist’s Way for anyone trying to break through creative blocks. I also truly believe in the book “The Presence Process,” by Michael Brown which teaches “emotional integration,” or how to feel unconditionally, although it can be a bit militant for some clients.

Above all I teach celebrating what is and learning how to stop arguing with what is so we can move forward with love and truth.

I have a Bachelor’s in Religious Studies from the University of Michigan and several certifications.

I am certified in the Kiloby inquiries and “The Work,” of Byron Katie.

I was on my way to obtaining a master’s in counseling, but I dropped out because I found that academia was too Orwellian and no longer for me, and I wanted to get started helping people as a coach. I felt ready and I felt if I built coaching programs from my soul that the right people would be attracted to me.

I have studied or attended workshops with Tony Robbins, Byron Katie, Wim Hof, Rupert Spira, Matt Kahn, and Eckhart Tolle, to name a few. I am certified in “the Kiloby Inquiries” and “The Work” of Byron Katie. I also have certifications in faster EFT (emotional freedom technique), Reiki, Coherent Breathing, and Qi Gong.

I have studied Somatic Experiencing, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the Neuroaffective Relational Model, and Core Energetics. I don’t currently hold certifications in these things, although that may be changing soon.

You need to keep an open mind, be highly accountable, and have a high degree of honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. Also, don’t put me on a pedestal. If you do will have to rip me down, and it will get messy.

No, but he is an impressive man. He and Jack Black are my role models. I see myself as exactly halfway between the two. Maybe you can have a body halfway between the two if you play your cards right. That’s approximately what my body looks like depending on whether it’s winter or summer.

No, I dance goofy, and I have a very insane and slightly dark sense of humor.

She is also a coach. She is awesome, and her name is Tatiana Dellepiane. Her Instagram name is @Tatianadellepiane. Her latest coaching program is usually on there.

Hell yes. We have a little Yorkiepoo named Mugsy Bones. He is my best friend

It was originally called “Dave cash: fat naked and gay.” Then it became “dickhead: a tale of three penises.” And finally, I just settled on “Dickhead,” because it was the simplest. I can send you a video of my play upon request. I also have a sex addiction themed novel called “Perv” which I hope to publish soon. I consider myself the Georgia O’Keeffe of penis.

You should probably find another coach.